A sad statistic today is that many couples find themselves living in an unhappy marriage. Advice is everywhere when it comes to dealing with this situation and the bulk of it says that divorce is the best option. If you still love your spouse and keeping your family together is your goal, there is help for you. A person who is living in a relationship that is slowing falling apart can repair it. There are steps you can start taking today to rebuild your marriage and make it stronger than it ever has been before.
One bit of unhappy marriage advice that you typically don't hear is to accept that the marriage isn't the same as it used to be. If your spouse has been pulling away physically and emotionally from you, it can feel overwhelming. If you still love them and you suspect that they have fallen out of love with you, it leaves you feeling very alone and confused. They may suggest the idea of a trial separation and this may cause you to jump to the conclusion that a divorce is inevitable. It doesn't have to be. Although you may have the urge to fight them tooth and nail on the issue of a separation, you shouldn't. Agree to it. Many couples actually find they miss each other so much during a separation that they fall back in love. Give your spouse the room they need, right now. If you do, it will show them that you respect them and that you want to put their needs before your own. This goes a long way towards repairing the relationship.
As hard as it may be, try not to dwell on the marriage problems. No one wants to be around someone who is constantly upset. Focusing more on yourself than the fact that your spouse and you aren't as closely connected anymore can actually help your relationship. Your spouse wants to be married to a happy, fun loving, dynamic and complex person. If you concentrate all your time, effort and energy into the marriage, you no longer are as interesting as you once were. Find your own passions again and show your spouse that you are still the vibrant person they married. Doing this can make them fall in love with you all over again.